Wellbeing

Imagine you did a survey. You asked the general public where wellbeing comes from. You'd likely get a variety of answers. Fulfilling relationships, diet, spiritual practices, fitness, a secure career, giving back to the world, following your passion... the list goes on.

Where do you think wellbeing comes from?

If you go through any examples of where wellbeing comes from, you'll find out that the majority of these sources are fleeting, temporary, and can easily be lost. A healthy body can still become sick, a secure career can suddenly turn sour, and so on.

Generally speaking, when you're under the impression that wellbeing is the sum totality of all the good circumstances you're currently inhabiting, it seems like life consists of perpetually trying to get to better circumstances. Does this feel familiar?

Whether it's something at work that needs improvement, some part of the body that needs improvement, something missing in relationships, and so forth. For most people - not all but most - there is always this feeling of 'not quite being there yet'. It always seems like there's something down the road that will make up for the struggle of life.

If you can relate to this, I'd like to invite you to explore a different perspective. What if it worked the other way around? What if how you felt dictated the quality of your circumstances, not the other way around? You might find this counter-intuitive, but bear with me for a second.

Two people can travel to the same city, stay at the same hotel, go to the same restaurants, yet have vastly different experiences. Each one lives in their own self-contained reality generated by their own thoughts that seems to be projected out. One person's experience of a late meal is another person's experience of more time to take in the surroundings. Each person's mini-reality feels very real to each of them, and the feelings they both experience are justified by the corresponding circumstances they find.

When you intend to cultivate an inward feeling state of gratitude, of enjoyment, of happiness, the senses have no choice but to report things that justify the feeling. Here's a little pneumonic on how experience works.

First, you go within and decide on what feeling you want to experience, then, you feel through your senses, and find circumstances to match the feeling.

Most of us don't even realise we are doing this, but that doesn't mean it's hidden. Sometimes we just need it to be pointed out by someone.

I would say that wellbeing is when you're in harmony with yourself. Your entire being, your mind, your heart, and your soul, are all moving together. You are open to the flow of deeper wisdom coming from your spirit, and your mind lines up with this spirit, and then you feel joy. When there is one movement, there is an experience of wellness, tranquility.

This might sound esoteric and kind of impractical, but I promise you this is as practical as it gets!

How does you become harmonious?

People have come from all parts of the world attempt to answer this question with different theories and practices, but seldom provide more than a prescription that only provides temporary relief - and most people fall off the bandwagon anyway. Even the ones that maybe had something quite profound to share often get lost in the echo of tradition.

But what if there was a way to really allow your inner harmony to express itself, in a way that was life-lasting? Without relying on a practice or some methodology?

Growing up I was always drawn towards understanding the fundamentals rather than just doing things because people said so. I don't want to learn what gear to shift into, I want to know how the gearbox works. I often scratched my head, "but how does it work?". When I started to enquire as to how the soul, thought, and emotion work, I came to a conclusion that resonated so deeply it changed my life in an instant. Thing is, it went against the grain of what we're taught in the mainstream. It actually flew in the face of a lot of common modalities that people use to generate wellbeing. Yet I was happy!

This realisation led to a re-discovery of inner feelings of peace and wellbeing that flooded into me like a waterfall. This happened many years ago, and since then, I've led a very happy life in tune with my soul.

When you understand how something works, you don't need to rely on people telling you what to do. In a similar way, understanding how your essential being, mind, and heart operates, where feelings of wellbeing and fulfilment really come from, means you don't really need to adhere to any practices. In short, you become you.

Just you, like, on a good day.

But every day (almost).

I'm here if you'd like to send me a message, we can talk more!